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This letter was written in response to >an article in Sister 2
Sister:
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male
readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking,
educated
and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes
about
our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings
amongst
Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat,
too
loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or
carrying
too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out
I was
constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and
give me
the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their
men,
why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired
of the
dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would
like
to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted
by
them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us.
Charles
Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams,
Quincy
Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan,
Cuba
Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry
Fishburne,
Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little
angry and
that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White
women
because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn
from
us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black
men,
let me know.
-Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA.
Response:
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted
White
Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I
graduated
from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia
with a
Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at
a major
corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider
myself to be
among the ranks of successful black men. I will not use my precious
time to
slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why
black
men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why
black
men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The
black girls
in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict
about
when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of
our
impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it
up
easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays,
in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are
docile
and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities,
fears, and
overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our
black
women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us,
make
more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because
of this
fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can
control. I
have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on
how easy
it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set
the
record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all
successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad,
Denzel
Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair
Underwood,
Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris
Rock all married
strong black women. And, to flip the scrip, there are numerous white
men, in
and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women
over
white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a
few. I
just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop
thinking that
because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember,
when
black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling
Dynasties
and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe
eating raw
meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your
history! It
was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food.
It was
the black woman that taught you how to praise your children. It was
black
women who were breastfeeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is
the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands,
and
children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born
with two
strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all
this,
Still They Rise! It is because of the black women's strength,
elegance,
power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black
Queen.
It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them.
It is
not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades
that I
love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about
black
women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their
integrity,
their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand
for
what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach
their
highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I
have
fallen in love with black women. I honestly believe that your anger
is
geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this were
not so,
then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your
skin? If
you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with
your
pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts
with
unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more
voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting
to
have what the black woman has. BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a
docile
woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call.
But,
unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be
a good
wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and
understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking
for a
sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. No
offense
taken, none given.
Signed,
Black Royalty